The
Vests, who were in Washington to attend a speech by President
Bush on embryo adoption, talk about their embryo adoption
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Today, Jonah and Gabrielle Vest are energetic siblings, but just a few years ago both were frozen embryos.
They were adopted as embryos by Gregg and Cara Vest of Hamilton, Va. courtesy of Gregg and Cara Vest

Gregg and Cara Vest pose with their children under a photo of Abraham Lincoln in the White House. The
Vests were in Washington to attend a speech by President Bush on embryo adoption. courtesy of Gregg and Cara Vest
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EDITORS' NOTE: This is the final story in a three-part
series on couples who have given birth through embryo
adoption.
HAMILTON, Va. (BP) -- Cara Vest was shopping for groceries
several years back, looking for items while also entertaining
her 1-year-old son, Jonah, when a woman suddenly approached.
"I recognize you from TV," the woman said.
Vest was no television personality, although she and
her husband had done TV interviews as a way to promote
the Snowflakes Frozen Embryo Adoption Program, a process
by which infertile couples adopt extra frozen embryos
left over from in vitro fertilization. Jonah formerly
was a frozen embryo. "
I want you to know that my children are from in vitro,"
the woman added. "I had extra embryos. Because
of your program, my husband and I decided to give our
embryos to Snowflakes as opposed to donating them to
research."
The woman's testimony moved Vest almost beyond words."
I said to her, 'You have no idea what you have just
done for me,'" Vest, 38, says now.
The encounter was "confirmation" that embryo
adoption was the right thing for Vest and her husband
to do.
Today, Cara and Gregg Vest of Hamilton, Va., are parents
of not one but two children born via embryo adoption.
Jonah is 4, Gabrielle 1. Both of them are considered
miracle children by the Vests, who struggled through
years of infertility."
[Embryo adoption] is the cure for infertility,"
Cara told Baptist Press. "It is a beautiful way
to cure that longing desire.... I always tell people,
if somebody said that I could have as many biological
children as I wanted, but I had to give up these two,
then they could keep the biological children, because
I'm not giving up these two."
Launched in 1997, Snowflakes (www.Snowflakes.org) --
which recently celebrated the 100th baby born through
the program -- is but one of a small number of embryo
adoption services. Others include the National Embryo
Donation Center (www.EmbryoDonation.org) in Tennessee
and Embryos Alive (www.EmbryosAlive.com) in Ohio.
Using embryo adoption, couples are able to experience
pregnancy and monitor their own prenatal care -- all
the while enjoying the thrills of traditional adoption.
Typically, embryo adoption is less expensive than traditional
adoption."
After having my kids, I can't imagine loving my own
biological children any more or any less," Gregg,
41, said. "I don't see how it could be possible."
But the road to embryo adoption was a long and sometimes
painful one.
After trying for several years to conceive naturally
-- including with the assistance of a fertility clinic
-- the Vests began looking for other options. There
weren't many."
I had always wanted to be pregnant, and it was crushing
that that wasn't going to happen," Cara said.
Her answer came one day when, while driving home from
work, she heard a Focus on the Family radio broadcast
that spotlighted embryo adoption. James Dobson was interviewing
a Snowflake mom."
She was telling her story about her embryo adoption,"
Cara said. "I couldn't even believe that that existed.
It knocked my socks off. I immediately ran home, got
on the phone and called [Snowflakes] and had them send
me their information."
A few months later they had a required home study done.
But instead of mailing the Snowflakes application in
and moving on to the next step in the process, Cara
decided to hold off for the moment."
I have no idea why," she said. "I got it
finished, and it just sat there. I just felt like the
Lord wasn't leading me to send it in. For some reason,
it just wasn't my time."
That application delay, it turns out, was significant.
Following a few months in which the Vests did some vacationing
and purchased a home, they finally decided to drop the
Snowflakes application in the mail. About the same time,
another couple 600 miles away -- Bob and Susanne Gray
of Atlanta -- was trying to decide what to do with their
extra embryos left over from in vitro fertilization.
They had 23 embryos, and had also contacted Snowflakes.
The Vests, it turned out, were the only couple that
matched the Grays' criteria. The Snowflakes program
gave the two families each other's contact information,
and they talked on the phone and then met together in
Atlanta. They bonded almost immediately.
Full of hope and excitement, the Vests planned their
first embryo transfer. "
All of our friends struggled right along with us,"
Cara said of their years of infertility. "Here,
they had their first kid, their second kid and they're
on their third kid, and we're still not having any kids.
They were right there on the journey with us to find
our child."
The fertility clinic placed four embryos in the womb,
and one implanted. The Vests, at last, were pregnant.
But there were complications. During the first few weeks
the doctor told the Vests the baby's heart wasn't beating
as fast as it should."
But I was like, 'Nothing's wrong with my baby. I've
got God on my side.' I never expected it not to work,"
Cara said.
Days later, at eight weeks, Cara had a miscarriage
-- on her birthday."
I bet I cried all day every day for three months,"
Cara said. "I just lost it. I couldn't deal with
it. It was very traumatic for me. When you go in and
you see this little blip on a screen and you see it
beating, you have so much hope...."
After a period of grieving, the Vests tried again.
This time the clinic transferred three embryos, and
two implanted. They had twins. But at eight or so weeks,
they lost one of the babies when its heart stopped beating.
They were still pregnant, but the happiness was numbed."
I don't think I allowed myself to be excited about
the pregnancy until he was in my arms," Cara said.
"I was terrified the entire pregnancy -- especially
since I lost the twin. I never let go of the fear."
The remainder of the pregnancy, though, went as planned,
and on May 7, 2002, Jonah David Polk Vest was born.
He was the 13th Snowflake born. Today, there are more
than 100."
All I kept saying, over and over again, was, 'I can't
believe you're here. I can't believe you're here,'"
Cara said. "It was just overwhelming to me to be
able to hold my son.... After all we had been through
and all the losses -- it was a lot of emotion and a
lot of thankfulness and gratitude and a lot of praising
going on."
Said Gregg, "It was surreal."
Their second child via embryo adoption, Gabrielle AnnMarie
Polk Vest, was born on May 2, 2005. The Vests have three
embryos left and hope to go through another transfer
soon.
Gregg and Cara, members of Centreville United Methodist
Church in Centreville, Va., have conducted numerous
interviews in recent years as part of their effort to
spread the word about embryo adoption. In doing that,
they also hope to sway a few minds in the ongoing debate
over embryonic stem cell research, which they oppose.
They took part in a White House ceremony last May alongside
other Snowflake families, when President Bush spoke
about embryo adoption."
We've always been against embryonic stem cell research
and for adult stem cell research," Cara said. "That's
a lot of the reason why we do media -- to put a face
on these embryos so that people see what they are destroying.
That's why we went to the White House and why we do
what we do."
The more the word gets out, the more that couples can
hopefully see their embryos not as property but see
them as babies."
The Senate is considering a bill that would allow federal
funds to be used for destruction of embryos in stem
cell research, which is banned by the Bush policy --
although that policy does allow taxpayer dollars for
research on non-embryonic stem cells (sometimes called
adult stem cells).
Embryonic stem cell research, which already is receiving
millions of dollars in private funds, has yet to produce
any therapies. Meanwhile, adult stem cell research has
led to treatments for at least 67 ailments, according
to Do No Harm, a coalition promoting research ethics."
What really gets me going is how it's become political
-- sometimes you wonder, is it really the way they feel,
or is it just a political stance they've taken?"
Gregg said of politicians. "You really wonder if
they really know what they're voting on."
While the stem cell debate often is a source of frustration
for the Vests, embryo adoption has been a source of
joy. They maintain a relationship with the Grays, and
they also have made friends with other Snowflake families
across the country. It's a small informal community
of families who have experienced the same ups and downs
of fertility. The families e-mail each other, write
each other and call each other periodically.
"People worry so much about biology," Cara
said of procreation and childrearing. "But it plays
such a minor role."
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